I have never given so much thought to how I should start my particular post but I don’t know how come I gave so much thought to this one. Well, maybe because I know people go through what I write & hence it should be presentable enough. But I guess I will stick to my basics & write whatever is in my mind not considering how it starts & ends. This time my post may not be liked by many, but still I don’t want to stop.
DELHITES, Boys (having sisters, mothers, gf’s) & Girls in particular, who are reading this post, I want to ask that while they are stepping out of their home, do they realize they are not safe & anything & everything can happen to them (considering the city & the country we are living in)???? THE GIST IS THAT WE GUYS DO REALISE THE FACT THAT WE ARE UNSAFE, BUT WE TEND TO IGNORE IT. All must have seen movies such as Dushman, No One killed Jessica, or the recent one – Murder 2, but still we ignore the bottom line that the incidents in those movies happened with a women. We can happily adapt the fashion trends from our Bollywood flicks but learning something out of them is not our cup of tea. The message is out rightly loud & clear that the female gender in our city is not safe – be it of any age slab….. The abhorrent crimes are committed even with an 8 year old girl child. If the crime towards women has turned that barbaric, how can we afford to ignore our safety issues?
Pick up any random date newspaper & reports of molestation & rape seem to be an ordinary thing now. They are so regular. And now when I mentioned reports here, I fail to understand how the editors classify a particular incident as a front page headline stuff or a news that has to be put on 5th page. A Rape is a Rape right? Be it the Dhaula Kuan rape case or the recent ‘prevented rape’ of the pub employee…..
I am sick of hearing statements such as “Society’s attitude needs to be changed”…… Society is made up of WE people, BUT HAS OUR ATTITUDE CHANGED TOWARDS OUR OWN SAFETY??? I witnessed this incident recently while I was travelling in the lady’s coach of Delhi metro. A girl, 20 years old, was wearing a tee & hot pants, an elderly women was watching her & out of concern scolded her that “why are you wearing such short stuff?” The girl instantly replied back saying “See lady, my parents do not have a problem, why are you creating a fuss? Its none of your business.” The lady was astonished for a moment but replied back “Fine…. You go ahead & wear such stuff…. But tell me, are you equipped enough to protect yourself if in any case animals decide to rape you today? What will your parents do then?” The statement stunned the girl, she had no answer……………
The Slut Walk recently held at DU disseminated the message of alarming women safety & the need of attitude transformation of men towards women. But I guess what is needed is spreading awareness as to how women should protect themselves in case of any incident. Moving out in groups, avoiding shady areas & shady timings, carrying a swiss knife, learning the basic martial art techniques can help in escaping the critical situation.
I wonder how can one spend hundreds on a ‘dance class’ but a martial art class is something they consider inessential.
Are we waiting for the society’s attitude to change??? That would take its own sweet time, when the government would get more stringent on incidents such as rape. Before changing others, one’s own attitude should change. If a transformation has to occur, this is the only way it would occur. And I cannot understand that girls being very very well aware of the present scenario still choose to wander around without ensuring their safety. Rather than shouting slogans ‘My short dress is a not a Yes’, one should accept the fact that merely spreading this word would not help. If a girl cannot take herself seriously, nobody else can take her seriously. We would not find Amit Sehrawat everywhere. OUR SAFETY LIES IN OUR OWN HANDS……
