When He's Gone!!!!!!!!

This is the moment everybody dreads in their life, yet everyone goes through it someday or the other. When you love someone from each & every bit of your heart & then he suddenly walks away……. He walks away & life is not the same anymore. The heart is shattered into pieces. Each piece oozing out the love it always held

LOVE………. That went beyond everyone’s perception of it, that surpasses people & society. Love – which when is near, is the only thing you see, for which the life’s risks seem worthy enough. The kind of Love for which one can do anything in the sway of emotions, yet that’s the very same thing holding you composed when the World breaks down on you.

LOVE………… Which makes the life’s materialistic pleasures unimportant, which makes you believe that there is nothing in the World you can ask for, except this person….. Love….. For the heck of which you pretend smiling throughout the day but them break down in his arms…..

And suddenly you realize that its all ‘LOVE’ but only for you. For him, it’s not that big a thing. Its so easy for him to throw it away & kill every bit of it by his words…….. And that’s enough for him, his work’s done….. But for you, everything changes. There are no more colors around & all you see is darkness. You stop smiling & tears are the only expression of your pain. Pain so huge that it becomes numb after a point of time…. And then you realize that you experienced something you might never feel again….. Those beautiful days are history & the pain is the constant feeling inside you.

Something I have never understood & I do not know if I will ever find the answer, that what is it that makes everything look so beautiful when you are in love? Even HIM, & all the ancillary issues….. But when HE walks away, crushing you, why is it an eye opener? What makes one see everything now, that one could not see before???

Life moves on… People move on… Does the heart really move on?? Or does it learn to compromise & get used to the pain?? Who says life is not beautiful….. It is…. I have seen it….. But it does not seem to exist without him……

I guess there must be somebody coming in your mind while you reading this. He/She might be your ‘walked over’ past or your life’s compromise………

I am glad I captured this moment in words. Probably I might never know this feeling again………….

P.S – I just watched Eclipse :PPP…….. Forgive me if this goes beyond your head :PPP

MY DRESS IS NOT A YES……. AND I AM NOT YOUR PREY

I have never given so much thought to how I should start my particular post but I don’t know how come I gave so much thought to this one. Well, maybe because I know people go through what I write & hence it should be presentable enough. But I guess I will stick to my basics & write whatever is in my mind not considering how it starts & ends. This time my post may not be liked by many, but still I don’t want to stop.

DELHITES, Boys (having sisters, mothers, gf’s) & Girls in particular, who are reading this post, I want to ask that while they are stepping out of their home, do they realize they are not safe & anything & everything can happen to them (considering the city & the country we are living in)???? THE GIST IS THAT WE GUYS DO REALISE THE FACT THAT WE ARE UNSAFE, BUT WE TEND TO IGNORE IT. All must have seen movies such as Dushman, No One killed Jessica, or the recent one – Murder 2, but still we ignore the bottom line that the incidents in those movies happened with a women. We can happily adapt the fashion trends from our Bollywood flicks but learning something out of them is not our cup of tea. The message is out rightly loud & clear that the female gender in our city is not safe – be it of any age slab….. The abhorrent crimes are committed even with an 8 year old girl child. If the crime towards women has turned that barbaric, how can we afford to ignore our safety issues?

Pick up any random date newspaper & reports of molestation & rape seem to be an ordinary thing now. They are so regular. And now when I mentioned reports here, I fail to understand how the editors classify a particular incident as a front page headline stuff or a news that has to be put on 5^th page. A Rape is a Rape right? Be it the Dhaula Kuan rape case or the recent ‘prevented rape’ of the pub employee…..

I am sick of hearing statements such as “Society’s attitude needs to be changed”…… Society is made up of WE people, BUT HAS OUR ATTITUDE CHANGED TOWARDS OUR OWN SAFETY??? I witnessed this incident recently while I was travelling in the lady’s coach of Delhi metro. A girl, 20 years old, was wearing a tee & hot pants, an elderly women was watching her & out of concern scolded her that “why are you wearing such short stuff?” The girl instantly replied back saying “See lady, my parents do not have a problem, why are you creating a fuss? Its none of your business.” The lady was astonished for a moment but replied back “Fine…. You go ahead & wear such stuff…. But tell me, are you equipped enough to protect yourself if in any case animals decide to rape you today? What will your parents do then?” The statement stunned the girl, she had no answer……………

The Slut Walk recently held at DU disseminated the message of alarming women safety & the need of attitude transformation of men towards women. But I guess what is needed is spreading awareness as to how women should protect themselves in case of any incident. Moving out in groups, avoiding shady areas & shady timings, carrying a swiss knife, learning the basic martial art techniques can help in escaping the critical situation.

I wonder how can one spend hundreds on a ‘dance class’ but a martial art class is something they consider inessential.

Are we waiting for the society’s attitude to change??? That would take its own sweet time, when the government would get more stringent on incidents such as rape. Before changing others, one’s own attitude should change. If a transformation has to occur, this is the only way it would occur. And I cannot understand that girls being very very well aware of the present scenario still choose to wander around without ensuring their safety. Rather than shouting slogans ‘My short dress is a not a Yes’, one should accept the fact that merely spreading this word would not help. If a girl cannot take herself seriously, nobody else can take her seriously. We would not find Amit Sehrawat everywhere. OUR SAFETY LIES IN OUR OWN HANDS……

A Small Intention!!!

Finally after ages I am writing… You won’t believe how much I missed you my Blog *wink* wink*……Life is going on at a crazy pace with so many things happening around along with pressing issues in mind that I am hardly left with any time to put my thoughts in order….. well anyways, things got to be prioritized….

So…………..World Cup tomorrow :) :)….. Excitement is in the air. People are displaying their patriotic feeling everywhere they can. Be it FB or BB or messengers etc etc. I am overwhelmed to see how patriotic we Indians are. I wonder where does this patriotism go when we see our country being looted & corrupted or when headlines such as ‘CENSUS SOUNDS ALARM’ appear???? Is out patriotic feeling just restricted to World Cup matches or when a tragedy like 26/11 devastate our Nation? I guess so…… Anyways the point here was not to raise questions on our fellow citizens or anyone in particular but the thought is something very general that dominates my mind somewhere & I am sure would have struck everyone’s mind at a point in time.

And I am sounding too bizarre with the way I am putting things so I better change track

Ok….. What is that one thing which a person strives to do in his/her life??? Well it can be anything… travelling around the World, meeting their favorite actor, become the richest man for a day and so on n so forth…. But will that make a difference to someone’s life? ‘SOMEONE’ who is needy, downtrodden, neglected? No, it won’t. Somewhere I feel that an average middle age youth of my age takes more from society in general than giving back the same. Oh I know we pay taxes for India’s development, but that plainly fills our politicians heavy pockets owing to the prevailing corruption, which we gladly choose to ignore….. Jaise chal rahaa hai, waise chalne do… Humein kya farak pad rahaa hai?????

I am not saying I plan to eradicate corruption out of this Nation, that I know I would not even have the guts to do… But yes, in my own little way, I know I will contribute somewhere, for someone’s betterment. I do not intend to play the role of ‘ R Madhavan’ from Rang De Basanti here nor my intention is to lecture people who read this. All I intend to do is raise that question in everyone’s mind that ‘Are we making a difference to anyone’s life by just surviving?’

Actions matter I know, but I have always believed that intentions matter even more. Intention, if there, would drive a person which would anyways result into an action. And intention, even the teeny-weeny, makes a lot of difference.

We have several avenues in our society through which we can do our bit & contribute in whatever small capacity we can.

So wake up & think!!! Think where you can make a difference & how….After all, it’s just one’s good deeds that makes one grow in life…………………